Celebration of Life- Parents Tribute

Last Saturday, friends and family gathered together to celebrate the life of our son. It was a beautiful time of worship, praise, and a clear presentation of the Gospel of Christ.
We were blessed and God was glorified.

As Wesley Adam's parents, we had a few things we wanted to share about our son, our journey with him, and the testimony he leaves imprinted on our hearts.

Wes read these words.

"In order to speak about the life of my son, I really need to back up and provide a brief context. It was six years ago today, Jen and I said “I do.” We covenanted together before our Lord, friends, and family that we would be married to one another, “ for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, till death do us part.” We recognized when we made these promises that it wasn’t our love per say that would sustain us through the good times and the hard times, but the sweet sustaining grace and love of our heavenly Father. He would be our Sustainer, our Comforter, our Healer, our Refuge, and our Foundation.

As Jen and I look back over these past six years, which, by the way, honey, have been wonderful blessings that only the Lord could give, ;). We see many ways in which the Lord graciously matured our thoughts and affections- kindly preparing our hearts for this day. Today. Today is the day that we have come together to celebrate one of the most precious gifts the Lord has ever given us. Today we celebrate the life of our son, Wesley Adam.

Let me share with you all just a couple of the ways through which the Lord prepared our hearts and faithfully demonstrated to us that He is our Portion. For the sake of time, I’ll start just a couple days prior to the Thursday doctor’s appointment when we found out Wesley Adam’s diagnosis.

First, I had been asked to preach here at Redeemer. I had been considering and praying through a few different texts, trying to decide which one to preach. I had been walking Jenny through each one, as a time of family worship as well as getting some feedback on her thoughts. The main texts that the Lord had laid on my heart were (to state briefly):
James 1:2-4 - the theology of trials
Hebrews 4:1-11 - there is rest available for those who faithfully respond to God's Word
Matthew 14:22-33 – there is one proper confession and response for the believer- Jesus is indeed the Son of God thus we should worship Him.
Indeed, during these sweet times as a family, our kind heavenly Father was preparing our hearts.
Second, Jen is in a weekly book study with a few of her good friends. At the time they were studying "Lord, I Want to Know You" by Kay Arthur. Due to a variety of reasons, the group had been on the same 2 chapters for almost a month. She had read and reread those 2 chapters for multiple weeks now and had even mentioned to me that she was ready to move forward. Apparently, our wise Lord was not. The chapters they had been studying were the names "Jehovah-Shalom"- The Lord is Peace and "Jehovah-mekoddishkem"- The Lord who sanctifies you. Indeed, the Lord knew Jen and I needed to know Him as a God of Peace and a God who sanctifies. Jen’s group finally discussed these two chapters on the Tuesday night before the Thursday when we received the news about the condition of our son.
Indeed, our Lord of peace was maturing our knowledge and understanding of Him- preparing our hearts for what He already knew and we would soon learn.
Next, on Thursday, we had a doctor’s appointment in order to find out if we were having a little boy or a little girl. I remember that morning, about 6:00am, Jen rolled over and said, “are you sleeping?” J I responded, “not anymore, sweetheart. What’s going on?” She said, “I can’t sleep- I’m so excited about our appointment today!” During the sonogram, our sonographer stepped out to "go get some more tape" and a minute or two later our nurse popped in the room. She was a little confused. Apparently, the sonographer told her that she needed to meet in our room with our doctor, but Jen and I were the only two in the room. We knew something was not right. She left the room to find out more information. We were given a small window of time to pray. Again, our gracious Father was preparing our hearts for the news.
Finally, driving home from the sonogram appointment, Jen and I were crying and mumbling random thoughts back and forth to each other trying to make sense of the situation, when from the backseat of our car, we heard the voice of a little angel, "Mom-ma" "Mom-ma." At that moment, our heads cleared and we were able to gather ourselves. You see, many months ago, our kind Lord gave us a precious gift, our first child Aubri Ruth. On that day, and many since then, the Lord used our sweet daughter as a means of grace to comfort our hearts.

When we arrived home from our sonogram appointment our hearts were broken. The Lord used many of our family members and brothers and sisters in the faith to read scripture, pray, and speak Truth over us. I will never forget the Christian compassion displayed by many toward my family and me. Indeed, the Lord used you all as a means of grace in our lives.

As you can imagine, these are merely a few examples of how our kind Lord prepared our heart for this situation. He has continuously shown His steadfast love to us throughout all 31 weeks.

In the days after, we struggled through both hoping and grieving. Yes, we were given a very grim diagnosis for our son and yet, he was still alive and kicking. We didn’t want to fill the days with tears, and yet, we couldn’t stop them. But, the Lord could. And he was so gracious to do so. Sure there were moments of sadness and grieving, but the Lord’s peace filled our hearts. He enabled us to truly enjoy every kick, every sleepless night, and every moment with our son. Thank you, Lord.

We knew our time with Wesley Adam might be limited, so we wanted to enjoy life with him. We took him to a couple Razorback football games where we jumped, cheered, and called those hogs. We took him to the hot, sandy beaches of Gulf Shores, AL, to the Big Apple to visit his aunt and uncle, and to CA to visit his great aunt/uncle, and cousins.

We probably enjoyed life with him the most in our home. His sister loves lotion. She learned very quickly, that if she asked to “lotion bubba” the answer would always be yes. Many times (a day, J) Bri would gently rub lotion on Jen’s belly. For me, each morning when leaving and afternoon when coming home from work, I would give my two girls a kiss and my boy a love pat. Jen and I would often talk about him and to him. He was apart of our every day life. Indeed, God allowed each day with our son to be a sweet blessing.

Family and Friends, we cannot express to you our appreciation. You have displayed the Gospel to our family well. From the moment we knew about Wesley Adam’s diagnosis you have loved us by standing firmly by our side and bearing our burden with us… you stood on the truths that you confess… even when it hurt you to do so,

You were faithful to bathe us in Scripture that promised God’s goodness.

You were faithful to pray for us each time the Lord brought us to your mind.

You were faithful to send emails and letters, which God used to encourage our hearts.

You were faithful to feed us when food was the last thing on our mind.

you were faithful to dedicate yourselves before God, Jenny and me, and each other to walk this road with us…. And you have.

Redeemer body, you were faithful to walk with us in Christian love. Elders, you were faithful to James 5 and anointed Jenny’s head with oil and prayed for healing for our son. Because of your faithfulness to the Lord He has been glorified.

31 weeks in his mother’s womb was all the time the Lord gave us this side of eternity with Wesley Adam. But, those 31 weeks were used for God’s glory. God changed us and I trust He changed many of you. God touched the lives of people we don’t even know. By His grace and for His glory He continues to use the life and death of Wesley Adam to mold and shape others and us into the image of Himself. God is using a little boy with an under-developed brain who never even took a breath for His Kingdom purposes. No doubt, Wesley Adam Mills, Jr. is one of if not the most precious gift the Lord has ever given my family and me. Thank you, Lord.

We long for the day when You will return and make all things new, including the resurrected body of our son. Until that day, please spend our family for Your glory. To You alone be all the glory, forever and ever. Amen."